One thing I have noticed in my many and relatively various relations and interactions with men is that a lot of you out there don't actually know what objectification feels like and therefore can not identify it amongst your selves. Men tend to think of objectification way too simplistic, as if it can be avoided by avoiding certain practical behaviour, but objectification is a way of thinking, not a way of acting. We all grow up in the patriarchy and boys are literally raised to think of girls as different, not quite as human, mysterious and difficult to understand. Of course you will all have objectifying behaviour. But let me put it like this: the two main factors of objectification is treating someone as not a whole, real person but just parts that can be used (not necessarily sexually may I add) and doing things explicitly against someone's will (quite likely because of the first one. An collection of parts has no will). If you think you might be objectifying someone that's a good check list! Now, I know that because growing up as boys you never learned to read silent language (body language, facial expressions,tone of voice, circumstances) and that makes it hard to know if you are wanted or not, but you can learn to and always ask if unsure.
Something technically objectifying can feel nothing like that in the context of being a real person with a will that's respected.
Why erase when you can adapt.
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"Half please." - "BUT WHAT ABOUT ME?"
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Picture taken from this new exciting blog I just found! (Swedish, I'll get back to you on that later)
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